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NC Women SlainRemember the Craig’s List Killer? The one who was hiring women to perform sex acts, and then killing them? Remember what big news that was?

Today I read the news of a small town in North Carolina where at least 9 women who were sex workers have been murdered and/or are missing.

Since 2005, nine women who lived at the edges of the poor community in this small North Carolina city have disappeared. Six bodies were found along rural roads just a few miles outside town, most so decomposed that investigators could not tell how they died. At least one of the women was strangled, and all the deaths have been classified as homicides. Three women are still missing.

Police will not say whether they suspect a serial killer, but people in the community about 60 miles northeast of Raleigh do, and they’re impatient with law enforcement efforts to investigate the slayings.

This is a small town, so nine women gone is something that is noticed by a lot of people. As one of the women who used to work with the missing women said:

“I used to walk these streets and jump in and out of cars. But then when that first girl Melody got killed I stopped that because I knew he would kill another,” said Johnson, 41. “I hate for that to happen to her, but it probably saved my life. I have five babies.”

Counting the names on one hand, she added, “There’s probably five or six girls left around here that will jump in and out of cars. He really did kill the whole neighborhood.

I knew without being told several aspects of the story: namely, the police didn’t really investigate what was going on until more women wound up dead. And even then, the families are frustrated because police don’t seem to really care. And the media isn’t really covering it all that much. And national pressure is non-existent, and money for body recovery is hard to come by.

And from what I can see, every single one of the women who are missing are black.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t think that sex work is any safer for white women then it is for women of color–but I DO think that people *care more* when the women who are killed or missing is beautiful, young and white rather than old or older, a mother of multiple kids and black. How the media has covered these separate crimes is evidence of that. When the Craig’s List murder happened, the media was stalking the court rooms, running police images of the suspect, talking to the murder victim’s families, contemplating over and over again–what would make such a beautiful woman *do this* (i.e. sex work)? She had her whole life ahead of her! She could’ve done anything! Oh, the tragedy of women being forced to sell sexual acts so they can survive!

Compared to nine women black women now missing or dead–and ONE article about in the national news.

Whose lives does the media find important? Whose PUSSIES does the media find important? Whose neighborhood’s does the media find important?

While I’m not a fan of the netroots nation conference–the one thing I am really glad of is that la Mala is repping. We must ALL feel the emptiness of a table with women not there because of violence and erasure. And for some reason, I don’t see many people at the “nation” caring much about these women, unless somebody is there to “remind” the nation about who isn’t there.

Foxy Friday

11:24 am By la Macha · sex · 2 Comments

10 Jul 2009

Because I generally get caught up in big tetas and sexy curves–today I have named it Man Lover Day. For those who love men, a gift:

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Paulo Quevedo

Rawr.

Uruguayan Bishop Resigns over Gay Sex Scandal

9:25 am By Jennifer Woodard Maderazo · Controversia| GLBT| Latin America| Uruguay| sex| society · Comments Off

3 Jul 2009

mons_barbosa_vcgI guess the bishop of Minas, Uruguay, Francisco Domingo Barbosa Da Silveira, 65, thought it would safe to report extortion attempts against him to police without anyone knowing what the alleged extorters were threatening to reveal: that he was having sex with other male members of the clergy as well as two prisoners he had hired to help out around his office. How silly of him.

Pope Benedict XVI dismissed the bishop of Minas (Uruguay), Francisco Domingo Barbosa Da Silveira, who denounced an extortion that left uncovered he was having homosexual relations, informed today the Vatican.

In a brief bulletin the press office of the Vatican informed that the pontiff has received the resignation in accordance to the paragraph 401.2 of the Code of Canon law, the fundamental law that applies to the catholic Church.

This regulation says: “The diocesan bishop is asked earnestly to present the resignation to his office if for illness or another serious cause there was remaining diminished his aptitude to redeem it”.

“The Holy Father accepted the resignation to the pastoral government of the diocese of Minas presented by monsignor Francisco Domingo Barbosa Da Silveira, in conformity of the article 401,2 of the CDC”, indicated the Vatican in the bulletin.

The two prisoners videotaped the encounter with a cell phone and were threatening to use the material to “out” the bishop.

Thinking about it a bit more, I guess with all of the child molesters in the clergy that get off with nary a slap on the wrist, Barbosa was probably right to think he could do the same.

Via / Momento 24 and 20 Minutos

Mañana in NYC: LIPS LIKE MY SUGAR WALLS

10:02 am By Maegan la Mamita Mala · Arts| Culture| Events| GLBT| Lo Que Hay| New York City| sex · Comments Off

29 May 2009

Sounds like amazing, sexy fun and it features some amigos/as.

Dixon Place Presents

HOT! Shots: LIPS LIKE MY SUGAR WALLS

Guest Curator: Edwin Ramoran

Saturday, May 30, 2009
8:00 pm
Dixon Place
161 Chrystie Street
New York, NY
Prices: $15.00
student $12.00
senior $12.00

featuring:
Designer Imposter, KAREN JAIME, Jayson Keeling with Alison Ward and The Ruffian Arms, Rachel Mason and Mark Golamco, Ivan Monforte, and Charlie Vázquez

LIPS LIKE MY SUGAR WALLS promises an evening of world premieres by emerging artists working in New York City. As a curatorial concept “Lips Like My Sugar Walls” acknowledges the primacy of our outer layers, lips, foreskin, culo, mandala, epidermis, and labia. They propel us. We use them in so many ways. We spit, suck, sing, slurp, squirt, lick, fuck, eat, blow, flirt, and kiss. What can a post-punk, Prince-influenced mash up look, feel, sound, taste, smell like? Does it hurt, love, fear, accept? This performance showcase brings together a raw, innovative mix of New York artists. All are contemporary artists who use interdisciplinary practices to produce performative works in video, poetry, photography, and song.

The world premiere of Ivan Monforte’s short video “Tres Veces” reveals the artist and three other men in a racy interpretation of Paquita La Del Barrio’s ranchero song of revenge “Tres veces te engañe.” For the first time, Jayson Keeling collaborates on a slide show and text performance with the punk antics of Alison Ward and her rock group The Ruffian Arms. Bringing the immediacy of the edgy East Village scene, performance artists Karen Jaime and Charlie Vázquez, both dynamic writers and spoken word poets who recently performed for Hispanic PANIC! at the queer bar Nowhere, will deliver new works, including a rare appearance by Vázquez as “Spittles the Clown.” Designer Imposter (aka Ramdasha Bikceem), known on the queer club circuit for her fierce mix of dance music at parties like Pantyho’s, will perform new original songs. Rachel Mason and Mark Golamco, who have worked together since 2003, will play a set of their experimental, collaborative music with viola accompaniment.

barack-obama2President Obama spent Sunday giving the commencement address at Notre Dame. A little context: Arizona State University recently refused to give Obama an honorary doctorate when they asked him to give the commencement at their school. There seemed to be no reason or rhym behind the decision–which lead to this excellent report by the team at the John Stewart show.

Notre Dame students (who actually have a legitimate beef with Obama) saw this and wondered why on earth their school, which is Catholic and thus as an institution, anti-abortion, would 1. invite an openly pro-choice supporter to speak in the first place, and 2. reward that pro-choice speaker with an honorary doctorate. Students have protested regularly leading up to the speech, and got in some moments of protest at the actual event.

Obama seemed to hold his own, however, earning a standing ovation and reluctant respect from news outlets. The following is from Fox News:

He said the views of the two sides of the debate are “irreconcilable” but can be honored.

“I do not suggest that the debate surrounding abortion can or should go away. Because no matter how much we may want to fudge it — indeed, while we know that the views of most Americans on the subject are complex and even contradictory — the fact is that at some level, the views of the two camps are irreconcilable,” Obama said.

“Each side will continue to make its case to the public with passion and conviction. But surely we can do so without reducing those with differing views to caricature,” he said.

On the specific issue of abortion, Obama urged the public to at least agree that it is a “heart-wrenching” decision for any woman, and that the country should work to reduce the number of women seeking abortions by reducing unwanted pregnancies and making adoption more available.

So, looking past the obvious irony that a man is deciding how a conversation about women should be discussed (and many of the protesters were men), I think it was a good speech in so much that for once, when there were protests going on, a public figure actually talked about those protests instead of barreling through some bullshit speech as if half the audience wasn’t standing with it’s back to the person.

But I do have one nitpicky issue: why does choosing an abortion always have to be a gut wrenching heartbreaking horrible decision? Why is it that the only way pro-choicers can frame the debate in a way that isn’t offensive is if they frame it around a woman who is inherently tragic rather than assertive and active?

It’s simply yet another version of the virgin/whore dichotomy (good tragic wonderful woman sacrificing her desired child just to survive in evil world versus evil whore that uses abortions as birth control)–and it’s frustrating. Why are women so easily reduced to simple caricatures ? (Oooh, the irony)

princessBianca over at Latino Sexuality reminds us that May is Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month.

While I was already out of high school when I became pregnant with my first child, I was still a teen, and becoming pregnant as a teen isn’t the best thing in the world (pero it also isn’t the worst either, I want to be clear on that). It changed my life in some positive ways pero also in some negative ways and I wouldn’t recommend it.

So how do we teach the young mujeres in our comunidad to take care of themselves, while allowing them the space to feel positive about their sexuality?

Read more…

We told you yesterday about the murderer who seemed to be targeting women through Craigslist. The latest breaking news is that a suspect has been arrested:

The fiance of the suspect has come to his defense, but I can’t help but think she sounds like an incredibly naive person:

Philip Markoff, arrested Monday after an intensive police investigation, “could not hurt a fly,” his future wife Megan McAllister wrote in an e-mail to ABC’s “Good Morning America.”

“Philip is an intelligent man who is just trying to live his life so if you could leave us alone we would greatly appreciate it,” she wrote Tuesday.

“We expect to marry in August and share a wonderful, meaningful life together.”

Famous last words, no?

I hope for her sake that this is all a big mistake–but this is not the first time a clean cut “intelligent” man turns out to be a violent anti-woman jackass.

marriott_murderMany women (and men) offer personal services (ranging from sex work to massages to house cleaning) over Craigslist. It’s a dangerous thing to do, especially for sex workers. Just as recently as a few months ago a young woman in my area got beat up and raped very badly by a university professor, and officers *arrested her* (instead of the rapist) when she went to report the rape because she was illegally prostituting herself.

Well, it looks like things are taking an even more dangerous turn for sex workers. The latest:

Boston police are investigating a shooting death inside a luxury hotel in the city.

Commissioner Ed Davis said that the 26-year-old victim from New York City was offering massage services through Craigslist.

Police believe that she may have been involved with prostitution and that there was an attempted robbery.

The victim, whose name was not released, was found around 10 p.m. Tuesday. A security guard found the woman bound and shot multiple times in the chest in the hallway on the 20th floor of the Marriott Copley Plaza at 110 Huntington Avenue.

She was taken to Boston Medical Center where she later died.

This horrible murder may be connected to a previous robbery of another sex worker. The police just released survelliance video (pictured), and are asking for you to contact them if you have any leads at all.

If you are selling services over Craigslist, please take care of yourself and be extra cautious until things are figured out.

amazon-sucksAfter a full day of Easter activities yesterday, I came home to find that Amazon was hard at work, disappearing sales rankings from “adult” books. Amazon seems to have interesting fucked up way of deciding what is “adult” though, especially since the deleting of sales ranking and the blocking of the books from appearing in some searches, and appearing on some best-seller lists seems to target books dealing with gay, lesbian and trans themes, and no not all of them are even “dirty”. Take for example the following from Meta Writer who seems as of last night had compiled a list of the books affected :

The Advocate College Guide for LGBT Students
http://www.amazon.com/Advocate-College-Guide-LGBT-Students/dp/155583857X/
No protagonist, but intended for LGBT college-bound students.
(Sales rank removed)

Robert Adrich Who’s Who in Gay and Lesbian History (amazon.ca)
(Sales rank removed)

Really these are offensive perhaps? Adult?

Here are some other books impacted: “Heather Has Two Mommies”, A Biography of Ellen Degeneres,

Oh just to show that they are equal opportunity haters and that Amazon doesn’t think disabled peeps should be getting down: “The Ultimate Guide to Sex And Disability” has been stripped of its sales ranking.

No se, some of it seems random and not unified pero it still feels dangerous especially since Playboy books and a book about porno guy Ron Jeremy still have their sales ranks up as do hateful books like “A Parent’s Guide to Preventing Homosexuality”. Certain glbt films/dvds still have sales rankings.

Amazon is saying that the stripping of sales ranking, which impacts searchability and therefore accessibility is a “glitch”, one that has been going on since at least February according to some. More likely is that this is a result of some organized “pro-family” orgs who have been complaining to Amazon via flagging certain titles.

For more information follow #Amazonfail at Twitter

In the meantime you can contact Amazon executive customer service via email: ecr@amazon.com and the customer service phone number is 1-800-201-7575 if you wish to share your views with them.

There is also a petition up here.

Via / Jezabel, LA Times, Mark R. Probst, Smart bitches, Trashy books

Jesus Loves You (and Condoms)

11:56 am By Jennifer Woodard Maderazo · Funny| Health| Religion| sex · 1 Comment

10 Apr 2009

Remember the Pope’s statements about how condoms are bad? How they are only making the AIDS epidemic worse? Well his C-level supervisor doesn’t agree. Jesus Christ shows the Pope who’s boss in this hilarious video which answers the question “what would Jesus do?”

Happy Good Friday!

Via / Huffington Post


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