Rihanna interview
6:11 pm By la Macha · Celebrities|TV|Violence|Women
5 Nov 2009This just broke my heart. Broke my heart.
From Huffington Post, a preview on the Rihanna interview:
I think that it is really generous and loving of Rihanna to think about girls at a time in her life when she is hurting and confused and devastated and even humiliated. But that section quoted above–that part where she says, “her selfish decision to love”….Oh, how my heart breaks.
It is not Rihanna’s job to stop violence against women. It’s not any woman or girl’s job to stop violence against women and girls. Even if she stayed with Chris Brown forever–it would never be her fault that women are being killed by men. It is manipulative and even violent to say it is. It is not selfish for a woman or girl to love. Dear god, no.
It is selfish to beat a woman. It is selfish to scare and intimidate her. It is selfish to take her love and use it against her, it is selfish to beat a woman who loves you because you know you can.
It is Chris Brown’s job to stop violating women. It is men’s job to stop violating women. It is men’s job to stop twisting and FUCKING with love so freely and generously given. It is the job of men to grow the fuck up and get into some kind of healing/therapy so that they can teach *little boys* how to not beat the holy fuck out of a person who loves them.
And it’s media’s job to stop putting the lives of little girls onto the shoulders of survivors. They have enough shit to worry about. It’s time to start putting responsibility where it belongs. On the fists of men who make the choice to use them whenever they feel like it.
Hola!
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10 Responses to Rihanna interview
Bubbles
November 5th, 2009 at 11:29 pm
Excellent post.
gabriel lushala
November 6th, 2009 at 9:42 am
Rihana is spot on men should respect thier female counterparts after all biblically females are submissive by nature. It is my obligations to respect our female counterparts( men should lead by example
Sha-King
November 6th, 2009 at 9:49 am
Male bashing I see…
Male/female relationship are a two way street. We can’t “blame” men for learned patterns of behavior or for what they were traumatized with, and internalized as they were children. Likewise, you can’t “blame” anyone who is acting out in light of the misogyny, bigotry, that they were conditioned with in this society. “Sexual exploitation” has become very much institutionalized and is “everywhere”. So we can not act like a “man” wakes up one day and decides to abuse women and “love”. Many men and women, frankly do not know what love is. I do agree in that everyone has to take responsibility for their own words, ways and actions in order to change the direction of male/female relationships as well as family relationships. However, please do not generalize by simply using “men” as the overarching group label. Many women have mental, emotional instabilities which cause them to end up in abusive relationships. As well, many women ‘don’t’ know what love is because of their own experience and miseducation. Honestly, I know of men in relationships who have gotten abused by women. Both sexes need education and accountability.
Maegan La Mala
November 6th, 2009 at 9:57 am
I don’t disagree that men and women need to be held accountable and need education however if a woman has a “mental” instability it’s her fault that she ends up in an abusive relationship? Is that what you are saying?
la Macha
November 6th, 2009 at 2:46 pm
where am i male bashing?
la Macha
November 6th, 2009 at 2:48 pm
gabriel–i don’t agree with you that women have a submissive nature–but that’s ok, I guess. I agree with you that men should lead by example. and I guess that’s a really good place start for now.
la Macha
November 6th, 2009 at 2:50 pm
and whaaaa? women who have mental health issues are suddenly to blame for getting beaten?
Bubbles
November 6th, 2009 at 4:41 pm
Re: “Many women have mental, emotional instabilities which cause them to end up in abusive relationships.”
Correct me if I’m wrong, but what I think you’re trying to say is that certain women are drawn to abusive men. That may or may not be true, but that doesn’t absolve the abuser. There is no justification for abuse! I don’t care how downtrodden, passive, or unstable the woman is, no man has the right to hit her! This is a very simple premise. There is no gray area!
Frankly, Chris Brown should have gone to JAIL!
la Macha
November 6th, 2009 at 6:16 pm
I agree totally with you bubbles.
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