VivirLatino

I am writting this letter because I was watching my first episode of "The Rub" and I was a little confused, disturbed, ALMOST ashamed of the things that were talked about on the July 11th show. I first want to say that I fully understand that not everyone is going to have the same opinions that I have about everything but for the woman who did not want to date anyone with children and didn't want any children. I didn't catch her name but what she was saying was a little hypocritical and juvenile. Not everyone that has a baby and doesn't get married is irresponsible. There are women and men who fully believe that they are going to get married. I have a son out of wedlock with someone that I was with for over 8 years BEFORE we had sex. We weren't married but we believed that we were going to be together forever. When I got pregnant I was on birth control and I used a condom. I do not believe that this is a work of irresponsibility. This is the work of God. Things happen for a reason. After I found out I was pregnant, my son's father started to beat me and cheat on me and beat me bad. I stayed until my son was 1 trying to make a family. I would not let him beat my son so I left. Should I not find love else where because I have a baby already?
Single parents need love too. Especially in this time of age because there are too many people who think that it is terrible to be a parent and not be married.
Then the same girl said that she wouldn't be with someone that had children. She doesn't want the responsible and she doesn't want children for herself and that is fine as well but how can you say that you think children are dear and that they should have two parents when you won't take care of a child yourself. That is a contradiction. I met someone (which by the way was LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT) and he had 3 children and was seperated from his wife. His daughter was 6 years old and his sons were 3 and 4. We kept our children out of our dating for almost a year before even introducing the children. I did not want my son seeing me with many men. I adopted his children as my own and now my 6 year old daughter is now 17. There were no drama episodes with baby daddy or baby mama, adults do not act like that when there are children involved. Women who are women do not act as such. I told my husband that I loved him in 3 days and we have been together and married for a little over 10 years.
If children are so dear and need love then why do you see them as a burden or something to run from. That one child that you meet from a male/female friend may need a FRIEND. My stepchildren call me by my first name and always have because I am not their mother. I provide and take care of (probably more than anyone else) but I am not their mother and that is what keeps our family a family. This isn't to change your mind, this is just something to think about before making comments about irresponsible people. It could be taken offensively.